Top tips from SAPS to curb cyber bullying

09 Oct 2018 | Admin Author

In the technically advanced environment we live in today so much has changed and it is sometimes hard to keep up with our technical devices, however, one thing that did not change is bullying, it only now evolved into an even bigger monster with greater consequences.

Bullying was something that happened at school on the playground, but now with the internet, it is something that can happen 24/7. As a parent or guardian, it is of the utmost importance to educate the youth about the signs of cyberbullying and how to combat it. We are constantly connected to our electronic devices and each device has the potential to put you in touch with a cyberbully.

The South African Police Service has put together a list of tips for teenagers (and parents) to help combat cyber abuse.

This can help you to protect yourself and minimise your risk of falling victim.

How cyberbullying harms people

The methods children and teens use to cyberbully can be as varied and imaginative as the technology they have access to.

It ranges from sending threatening or taunting messages through email or text, to breaking into your email account or stealing your online identity to hurt and humiliate you. Some cyberbullies may even create a website or social media page to target you!

Tips for teens (and adults) dealing with cyberbullying

Do not respond. Your reaction is usually exactly what the bully wants. It gives him/her power over you.
Do not retaliate. Responding with similar threats reinforces the bully’s behaviour.
Save the evidence. Online messages can usually be captured, saved and shown to someone who can help. Save evidence even if it is minor. Cyberbullying can escalate.
Block the bully. Use privacy tools to block the person. Report any abusive comments to the social media website administrators.
Reach out for help. Talk to a friend or a trusted adult who can help. Children are often reluctant to tell their parents or teachers but you need to reach out to someone.

Spot the warning signs

Your child may be the victim of cyberbullying if he or she -

becomes sad/angry/distressed during or after using the Internet or phone.
appears anxious when receiving a text, email or have been on social media websites.
avoids discussions about online activities.
withdraws from family/friends/activities previously enjoyed.
refuses to go to school or to specific classes, or avoids group activities.
illustrate changes in mood, behaviour, sleep, appetite, or shows signs of depression or anxiety.

Prevent cyberbullying before it starts.

block communication with cyberbullies.
never post or share ANY personal information or passwords online.

Monitor your child's technology use

Regardless of how much your child resents it, you can only protect them by monitoring what they do online.

Keep the computer in a busy area of your house so that you can easily monitor its use, rather than, for example, allowing your child to use a laptop or tablet in his or her bedroom.
Set up filters on your child's computer. Tracking software can block inappropriate web content and help you check up on your child's online activities.
Insist on knowing your child's passwords and learn the common acronyms children use online and in text messages.
Encourage your child to tell you or another trusted adult if they receive threatening messages or are otherwise targeted by cyberbullies.

If your child is a cyberbully

If your child has responded to being cyberbullied by employing their own cyberbullying tactics, you can help your child find better ways to deal with the problem. If your child has trouble managing emotions, such as anger, hurt or frustration, talk to a therapist about helping your child learn to cope with these feelings in a healthy way.

Tips for parents dealing with a cyberbully