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We’re into the final stretch of the year, and most of us find ourselves caught up in a whirlwind of pressing responsibilities, high expectations and tight finances. The kids are reeling with exam anxiety; deadlines are looming and loose ends are unravelling at work. It doesn’t help that the early conversations about the upcoming family holidays are breathing life into old grudges and insecurities. It’s called ‘end-of-year’ stress, and it can feel overwhelming.
It’s natural at this time to take stock of our goals and accomplishments over the year, and this can leave us with a sinking feeling. For many of us, 2023 has been a tough time, and it’s understandable if we’re not quite feeling like the best versions of ourselves. Nevertheless, we’re facing the most social time of year. Office parties and client functions, school obligations and community events, as well as all the accelerated summertime getting together with family and friends. This can take a significant toll on both our physical and mental well-being.
Doryce Sher, founder of Aromatic Apothecary, who is also a qualified pharmacist and aromatherapist points out that it is important to notice the signs of becoming overwhelmed by end-of-year stress. She says, “Pay attention to your breathing. If it’s quick and shallow it is symptomatic of stress. Notice if you are frequently unable to relax and are exhibiting other symptoms of anxiety. The quality of your sleep is a good way to gauge your levels of stress. Sleeplessness and lying awake even if you’re exhausted are signs that stress is getting too much for you. You may also feel like you are often holding back tears or feeling the need to cry. Quick temper, irritability and snapping at those around us are also signs that you may be overwhelmed. Notice your thoughts, and how frequently you find yourself feeling like you’re carrying the load, and it’s all too much. These are clear signals that you need to take action to manage your end-of-year stress and find balance in your emotional state. What’s important to remember is that end-of-year stress is common, and it is manageable. Luckily, you can find natural and holistic ways to face the challenges, restore mental well-being and find enjoyment and achievement in getting through the year.”
When it comes to the wrap-up of work and school, it may not be possible to meet everyone’s demands and expectations of you. The same is true when it comes to the kickstart of the end-of-year social whirl. Take some time to think through your priorities and use your calendar and to-do lists to organize your tasks, activities and obligations. It is also important to plan some relaxation and downtime.
Set realistic goals and make commitments you can keep. Doryce says, “What burdens us mentally and emotionally can take many forms. For example, this is a good time to turn off the news, minimise your scrolling and switch off the notifications for your group chats because these are activities that are onerous when it comes to our mental health. Distance yourself from the constant information overload. While it’s important to be informed it is unhealthy to be totally consumed by events we cannot control.’’
Every day, think about what you can do to refresh your mind and strengthen your emotional resilience. Use mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing and meditation to stay grounded and reduce stress. Doryce suggests, “When you are driving or at home, put on gentle music or take time out to contemplate and focus on what you’re doing – staying present requires practice and reduces worry, anxiety and stress.”
Even though you are so busy, make sure you stay physically active every day. If you don’t have time for your usual workout, then still take a quick walk. Exercise is a natural mood-lifter, it boosts your energy levels and builds resilience. Make healthy eating choices, especially if you are eating out more often and stay hydrated. Focus on getting sufficient sleep. Keeping up these basics of self-care goes a long way to feeling confident that you can cope with the upcoming silly season.
Doryce is an advocate of the travel-free ‘home holiday’. She says, “Having a holiday at home, which means relaxing, sleeping, gardening, lying around and generally doing nothing, could well be the best way to beat end-of-year stress. This could be much more beneficial than planning stressful travel, and a lot less expensive. Bake with your children, play board games at home, and go for walks in your neighbourhood. These are great ways to be on holiday which doesn’t involve travel.”
There are many holistic solutions that can help you reduce stress, many of which such as aromatherapy, can be safely integrated with conventional medicines if necessary. Doryce says, “It helps to have stress relief support that is quick acting, non-additive and free of unwanted side effects. When it comes to aromatherapy there are a variety of oils that are helpful for stress relief, and a mix of these oils creates healthy outcomes beyond that of any individual oil. Aromatherapy stress relief solutions can help calm and relax the body, assist with deeper breathing, and reduce anxiety. Repeated use sets up new memory pathways and induces healing in the body each time. It’s also a safe and effective way to support your kids as they navigate their own end-of-year stress.”
By implementing these tips and including the use of aromatherapy solutions, you can better manage and alleviate the stress that rises up at this time of year. Remember that self-care and self-compassion are essential during these hectic months, so be sure to prioritize your well-being
This story first appeared on Bona.
